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Should Teens Be Allowed To Date?


While this can be a highly debatable topic, it’s wise for us to examine the current status quo.  Because I am the parent to a teen and a pre-teen, this is a very important post for me.

Growing up, I was left to learn about girls and dating from my peers and the media.  I was just like the majority of teens at my school.

Most of us started “dating” as early as middle school.  Even our parents considered it normal behavior for a teenager to be dating.

Most would consider it “old fashioned” to teach your children to avoid dating until they are ready to pursue marriage.

Here are some things I have noticed when teens start dating:

1. Teen pregnancy
2. Teens become sexually active
3. Teens become emotionally scarred because they aren’t mature enough to handle the emotional responsibilities of a relationship.
4. Teens become distracted in their scholastic and home responsibilities.

You may not agree that this should be viewed as a problem, but do you as a parent want to deal with the consequences?  I bring this up because Valentines Day is coming up and Prom is just around the corner.  Many teens will feel pressured to have someone to spend the holiday with.

However, it is our job as parents to teach biblical truth,  good morals and Godly character to our children so that they will know how to conduct themselves when faced with the pressures of the world.  So, how should teens approach dating from a Christ-centered point of view?

Here are some nuggets to chew on:

1.  Teens should abstain from dating until they have finished school and are ready for marriage.
2.  Parents need to be proactive in teaching their children about sex and relationships.  Teach your children to uphold God’s plan for sex as only permissible between a husband and wife.
3.  Because society will try to make your kids follow a worldly view of relationships, help and teach your kids to stay busy and to allow no place for the enemy to make them feel like they are missing out on something.
4.  Fathers,  teach your sons what to look for when seeking a wife.
5.  Mothers, approve the potential wife of your son.  If you see character flaws, tell him and allow him to decide what action to take.
6.  Teach your teen that it’s okay to have friends of the opposite sex, but to keep all interactions public in order to avoid temptation.
7.  Instruct your teen that Prom is not mandatory.
8.  Help your teen to learn from your mistakes.   If you don’t do this, they will likely repeat them.

Now, I am not saying that this will be an easy process,  but the results will be worth the effort.  Also, I am not just posting this stuff for others, I am dealing with a teenager myself.

Look out for more posts on this later..

Til then,
Stay On Guard!

Bro. Donnell

About Building & Guarding Families

I am a 36 yr old, married father of 3 children. I have had relationship with God for the last 15 years, but it wasn't until I started my own family that I understood why God made me different. A passion grew in me for building and guarding my family from the failures of those that went before me. I want to share that passion and the wisdom I accumulated over the years to help others to strengthen their families and guide their children the way God intended.


2 thoughts on “Should Teens Be Allowed To Date?

  1. Really good topic! I hope it inspires real discussions and leads to godly revelations.

    We also have to deal with the curiosity and rebellion of children, who often desire the forbidden. Maybe there’s a place for taking that attraction out of dating, by setting age appropriate limitations on our children as they explore friendships with the opposite sex and feelings of intimacy…

    I’m just thinking out loud 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    Posted by Ufuomaee | November 1, 2015, 9:10 am

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