Last week, I addressed the need that girls have for their fathers and the visible consequences of a father’s failure to give his daughter what she needs from him. After the post, I heard of another example of this very truth.
A 12 yr old girl ran away with her 19 yr old boyfriend after her mother found him hiding and kicked him out of her house. Now, this same girl is in trouble with the law and will likely face jail time. What was missing? You heard nothing about her father!
I am really hoping that men understand that their presence in the home means a great deal to their children. The consequences of being a “dead beat” are too serious for any man to take this responsibility lightly.
Here are some hard truths that all men should understand;
1. Your daughter learns how a man should treat her by how she is treated by you. You are the example that she will have to compare all men to.
2. Your daughter needs to receive confirmation from you as to her beauty and worth. If you fail to give her this, there is a greater chance she will seek it from other men/boys. One major problem with this is that she will most likely be expected to give sex in exchange for the confirmation that she will receive from these other males. Don’t be surprised if she become pregnant!
3. Your daughter needs to be covered and protected by you. If you leave her without your covering, she will most likely be negatively influenced by television and social acceptance. This can lead to her dressing in provocative clothing to get attention from others, right or wrong.
4. You are her first boyfriend and should teach your daughter that she isn’t to date until she is ready for marriage. It is ideal that on her wedding day, the groom is replacing you as her covering. This man should be approved by you and deemed suitable to the task of covering his wife (your daughter).
Most of what I am telling you here is logical and may even be seen as out dated and old school. However, the responsibilities of a father should never be taken lightly. The consequences are too severe for you not to take action.
Remember, it’s not too late to start being a great dad!
Til next time,