In part 1, I stopped short of telling you what happened with Eve in the garden and how it applies to you as a woman/wife. Now, we all know that according to Genesis 3:6, Even ate the fruit and gave also to her husband. What is important to realize is that Adam followed Eve into disobedience.
As a result of her actions, God said the following in Gen 3:16 (KJV) “Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee”
However, take a look at the New Living Translation; “I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy, and in pain you will give birth. And you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you.” Did you see it in the second part of the verse? After the fall, it became a woman’s nature to desire to rule over her husband. That’s why sometimes you may feel the need to tell your husband what to do or that you need to be in control.
Other things that can point to a woman’s need for control are cultural. Some women, especially those that were raised by a single mother, were sometimes raised in such a manner as to not need a man in her life. They were taught that they need to be prepared to be single just in case things don’t work out with her husband. They were taught to be close enough to her husband to enjoy his companionship but not to close as to actually need him. This way of thinking keeps a woman from truly connecting with her husband.
The point I am making is that submission isn’t a weak point in a woman, it is strength. One reason this is so is because to submit means you are going against your very nature and willfully submitting to your husband as unto the Lord. In addition, your act of submission is pleasing to God.
Here are some tips that will help if you are having trouble in this area;
- Study the scriptures to find out what God requires of you as a wife or future wife.
- Submit yourself totally to God and trust that He will lead your husband to make the right decisions for your family.
- Conduct an inventory of yourself. Are you a stubborn person, In what areas of your marriage do you try to have things done your way without consideration towards your husband.
- Allow your husband to be your husband! Follow him as God leads him.
More on this in coming posts…