In one of my former posts, I made mention of the fact that parents are to guard their children from the influences of the world.
Today, I want to share more detailed concerns that if addressed, can aid you to avoid helping your children slip away into the arms of the world. Yep, I did say “help your children slip away”.
One danger that many parents find themselves displaying is passivity. One of the definitions of being passive means “not participating readily or actively: to be inactive”. Did you get that?
A passive parent is one who doesn’t participate readily or actively in the parenting of their child. They are a visible parent, yet are very inactive and disconnected. As a result, they leave their children uncovered and easily influenced by anything that sounds good or popular.
2. You tell your child to do one thing but you do another. 3. You are active in church, caring for the needs of others and your child is expected to deal with your absence. There are many more signs but these are some examples.
Take music for example. When I was in high school, we listened to hip-hop, r & B, jazz, old school and others. Yet, the artists were not as they are today. For instance, look at Lil Wayne
who has been very trendy and influential to our young kids. His twitter account shows 18.3 million followers! You can easily find pictures of him wearing women’s clothing, wearing his pants off his butt and even kissing another man.
Today, teens are being raised by parents who are either absent or too busy with work or even church to be actively involved in guiding and training their children as mentioned in Proverbs 22:6. Many children these days are being left to themselves and they don’t know how to live a Christ-centered life. I mean, they don’t have an example to pull from.
Mothers aren’t teaching their daughters how to be godly women (Titus 2:3-4). Here is proof of this.. have you noticed how many single mothers in church find themselves with pregnant teenage daughter? Hmmm. Fathers are leaving their daughters without a covering or confirmation. Ever notice how during a wedding, the question is asked, “Who gives this woman to be wed?”. As a father, you are to cover and care for your daughter until a man, confirmed by God through you, comes to take your place as her covering. You, DAD, give your daughter a lens to view a potential husband through. He is to be willing to love her as you have loved her.
Fathers are also letting their sons grow up without any sense of identity in Christ. Every boy needs identity and this is a void that cannot be ignored. The sad part is that if you, his dad, don’t give him the identity he needs to be a godly man, he will seek an identity elsewhere, right or wrong. This can be in a gang, hip-hop music, homosexuality, etc.
Now, I have to address one prime excuse that some parents use to explain their passivity, “ I am doing the best I can”. All of us can do better and we should make the choice to do just that. My stress point here is that IT IS A CHOICE. Ironically, just like salvation, making no choice is making a choice.
So, what can you do to become a better parent and cover your child?
- Pray and ask God to help you raise your child in a manner pleasing to Him.
- Become a proactive parent that teaches by example and engages with your child(ren).
- Monitor the music and television shows that you allow your children to watch. Here is a key, just because it’s on television doesn’t mean they aren’t paying attention to it.
- Make parenting a priority. If you are too busy, make adjustments to your schedule to be more available. You kids show never have to accept your lack of availability.
There will be more to come in future post as I share more tip and view point that will help us all become better parents and spouses.
Till next time,
Stay On Guard.