“Forgiveness” is one of those things that doesn’t come easy to most people. When someone does us wrong, we tend to feel that it is our right to hold a grudge against them until they apologize for what they did. The sad reality is that there are times when we are wronged and we’ll never be apologized to. But, what do you do in those moments? Do you continue to harbor unforgiveness or do you forgive?
In your marriage, you may find that your spouse has done something to hurt you, failed to meet your expectations, or simply didn’t do something you asked of them. Maybe your parents mistreated you and you are still angry at them. Maybe your spouse left you and you still have bitterness in your heart towards them. Perhaps a friend did something against you and it still hurts. My point is that unforgiveness can be present in any relationship and we have to decide to forgive.
So, what does it mean to forgive? I mean, aren’t we entitled to feel hurt, angry and needing revenge when someone does us wrong? Well, according to the way of the world, you are. Yet, according to the word of God, you are not.
One definition of the word Forgive means to “cease to feel resentment against”. True forgiveness is behaving as though whatever happened to you never happened. It also means that when you see whoever wronged you, you feel no anger or resentment against them AT ALL!
In Matt 18:21, Jesus instructs the disciples to forgive until 70 time 7. This doesn’t mean 490 times, but it means to forgive until it becomes a second nature.
As for how this relates to your marriage and children, ask your spouse if you have hurt them in any way. As your children if they feel neglected or unloved. Also, if your spouse has done anything to you and the hurt you feel is hindering your relationship, FORGIVE THEM.
Remember, unforgiveness only hurts the one carrying it. It is like a poison and will eat away at you. I was reading that 61% of cancer patients have struggle with unforgiveness. And of the 61%, 30% of them wrestle with extreme unforgiveness.
Bottom line, holding unforgiveness in your heart is not worth what it will cost you!
Till next time,
Stay On Guard!